Wow! Yesterday was full of inspirational tips all around me. Maybe this blog will help me pay attention and notice that all the help I need really is right in front of me.
It started with a conversation with two other teachers as I was leaving my Sunday afternoon get-ready-for-the-week session. They both have family members, adults, living in their homes, and it's really stressful. As I left, I thought, no matter how tough some days are with my kids, they are kids. I have a whole future with them to look forward to, a reason to help my son get his anger under control. He's going to grow up and be somebody someday, so all this hard work now is worth it. This isn't a permanent condition. That easily keeps me motivated.
The second tip came from my sister. In a moment of conflict at her house, my son told my daughter that he hated her. "At least he doesn't know any s-w-e-a-r words," I whispered. "Not yet," she said. Well, this got me thinking/raving in my head (at about 3am). I don't want that language in my house! Blah...blah...blah... Then it occurred to me: plan ahead! Think it through. Imagine him saying the worst word you can think of to your face and imagine yourself (as the Zen Mommy I aspire to be...) handling it calmly. Not breaking a sweat. Clearly demonstrating for darling son that those words have no power whatsoever. I fell right back to sleep with a smile on my face. Now I can't wait for him to try it. Zen Mommy can handle this one!! (I'm sure I'll let you know how it actually goes!)
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